Maria Duval

There is a strong link between one person’s Luck and his or her social relationship. Be conscious that every word releases a particular energy, depending on what you think when you say it. What is important is not the word, but the “thought energy” that accompanies it. Different people can speak the same word, but each could have a different effect. That’s why how you communicate and socialise directly impact your successes in life.

Maria Duval: It is important to understand that: lucky opportunities only exist within the framework of relationships that you create in society.

Simply, this means, bad luck, failure or obstructions, annoyances and reversals of fortune come primarily from a bad attitude to social life. This is why it is imperative to recognise your need for other people. To deny this need is like being isolated from society, losing the advantages and benefits that come from relationships with others, whether they are commercial, professional, friendships or any other.

In essence, the best way to improve our luck and success is to cultivate interesting, useful and advantageous relationships. So try your best to expand your relationships: join groups and clubs, become a member of professional or cultural associations, go on holiday with groups, etc.

Maria Duval gives some pointers to radically transform the tense contacts that you could have with other people:

Perception of things

You must understand that every person perceives the world in a different way. The first rule: always keep in mind that the “Map of the World” of the person you are speaking to may not be the same as yours. Approach the relationship with a spirit of openness, to keep benevolent neutrality to achieve respectful and tolerant exchange.

Really take an interest in others

Generally, the people who succeed and are happy take an interest in other people. When someone speaks to you about themselves, their family, their health, their troubles, avoid appearing as disinterested or bored. Learn how to listen to others. Most people need to tell their story to feel happy. Learn how to listen to others. Be sociable: speak to others about what interest them, encourage the others to speak about themselves, make them feel important – and do it sincerely.

Be “listening”

Maria Duval wants to emphasise this point: the art of communication comes from listening.
Listening to others is a service that you can perform for them. Nowadays, no one really listens any more, and if you give your time and listen to people you are speaking to or to those you love, you are giving them one of the most beautiful gifts there is. Try it, and you will realise that people are very sensitive to this and will return your kindness one hundredfold!\

Don’t criticise, unless there is an absolute need

Understand that 99 percent of people judge themselves innocent whatever their faults. So it is useless to judge and criticise others on their actions. Communicating well implies not criticising, condemning or complaining. Communication is an exchange and not a battle, so renounce criticism and rumour mongering from your discussions. Believe me, you will only gain advantages from the conversations; you will avoid controversy or conflict… which is the best way of coming out of them successfully.

Read the full article here. The Art of Social Relationship